my reply to samantha brick.

I know this does not correlate directly to my business. However, I am in the line of skincare, beauty and nutrition.

Good natural products are not the be all and end all of good skin.

Good nutrition is essential. From eating plenty of vitamins and minerals to drinking lots of water, it is the key, and should be the first port of call.

With this in mind, I wish to revisit the outrageous article published by Samantha Brick in the Daily Mail. I am not a big fan of DM at the best of times and feel they go in for sensationalising and bigotry.

However, words like this are out there and I worry for the vulnerable people that read them and take them to heart.

So here is my reaction to the offending article. Some of you may have read it before but I feel it deserves addressing on here and not just on facebook.

For My teen daughter (my reaction to Samantha Brick's article)

My Darling Daughter,

I have just sat and read an article published by the Daily Mail (yes, I know, I know) by Samantha Brick.

I am sure you are aware I have strong views about the way the public is influenced by what they read and see. But, this particular article has left me with enough feeling to want to address her words. In particular, I want to address them with you and your beautiful friends in mind.

You are all of an age where body image is becoming important to you, and seeing this drivel in print alarms me. I know you are sensible enough to take it with a pinch of salt; but I would not want one single grain of this to enter your psyche.

The italics are the words of Samantha Brick.

"When my husband and I invited friends to dinner, I knew they'd want to bring something along as a contribution to the evening."

As is right and proper in polite society.

"and made a point of saying that wasn't necessary."

As we all do.

"So when one friend arrived and thrust a hefty box of chocolates into my hands, I rewarded her with ice-cold contempt rather than the grateful smile she was clearly expecting."

What a self centred and ungracious attitude. It is amazing there are any friends left.

"At the end of the evening, that very expensive box of hand-made French chocolates was consigned to the bottom of the kitchen bin, the contents ruined by the coffee dregs I had deliberately poured over them."

Would it have killed you to stop at a local hospital/nursery/hospice/charity and drop them off there, to the hard working staff who could do with a little treat and cheer during their day in, day out slog of caring for others?

"I am 42 years old and have been on a permanent diet for the past 30 years."

How sad and empty for you!

"The logic is simple and irrefutable: any self-respecting woman wants to be thin, and to be thin you need to spend your life on a diet. "

No, you don't! You need a balanced nutritious diet to maintain optimum health. The healthy size you should be will naturally follow.

"I don't believe overweight is ever attractive."

I feel it is what you *do* believe that is more of a concern

"Whether we like it or not, we live in an age and a part of the world where men and women regard thin as beautiful."

How many real men have you asked? I have always found that men prefer women to look healthy, and not look like the teaching apparatus from the biology lab.

"As an actress, this is something Joan Collins understands only too well, revealing last week that the secret to maintaining a perfect hourglass figure into your 70s is spending every day on a diet."

Perhaps she means a healthy balanced diet? Not the type of damaging self denial you are twittering on about.

"Joan, 79, said she controlled her weight during a long career so that she could stay in work - an entirely laudable attitude."

I expect she has. However, she has always been famed for her beautiful curves, not dieting to the point of looking like a hat stand.

"Like Joan, I have no intention of letting my body slide flabbily into middle age. I believe that any woman with a modicum of self-respect should watch her figure with the same vigour. Is it any coincidence that Joan is still attractive and in demand for work? "

It is my firm belief that any woman with a modicum of self respect should be aware of what she is eating. Maintaining a balanced diet to stay fit and healthy. Being aware of environmental issues surrounding the food on your plate. Not adding to the growing issue of food wastage while others starve.

"I was glad to see the back of Easter this month, as it seems to have been hijacked by the greedy masses who regard it as a free pass to gorge on chocolate."

Or perhaps a joyful time for families and friends to get together over a good meal, and treat each other with a gift of chocolate that they would not normally indulge each other in. Yes, some may over do it, but many still have Easter eggs in the house that will last a good while longer, and be treated as an on going treat to be enjoyed in moderation. Also, let's not forget that Easter is a Religious occasion and thus extremely important to some.

"Not a morsel passed my lips. Chocolate, cakes, sweets and any other calorie-rich, fat-laden 'foods' are banned in my home."

Clearly, self indulgent smugness isn't!

"For three decades, self-denial has been my best friend."

You have some strange friends! I refer back to your first paragraph! Is it any wonder that you consider things like self-denial as friends when you treat people so shoddily?

"And one of my biggest incentives is that I know men prefer slim women."

No! Not a sentient, respectful and kind man!

"I have only ever dated men who kept a strict eye on my figure. My partners are not only boyfriends but weight-loss coaches. "

Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear! What an empty battery of relationships you must have slithered through!

"My first love continually reminded me that one can never be too rich or too thin, and my husband of five years frequently tells me that if I put on weight he will divorce me."

Would you like the number for relate, or a good divorce lawyer?

"In the workplace, male bosses will always give the top job to a woman who looks fit and in control, rather than one who looks like a bulging sack in danger of imminent cardiac arrest."

Fit and in control does not equate to "on the fast track to an eating disorder". Incidentally one of the long term effects of poor nutrition is cardiac arrest. When did you last have you heart checked?

"I have some insight here, as I was overweight until I was 14 years old. Bitter experience taught me that the world pays no attention to dumpy girls."

Overweight until 14? Unless you had a remarkably poor diet I suspect you looked much like your peers. I may be wrong in this, but your vitriol about being fat leads me to believe your problems are more psychological in origin.

"Little wonder that in my mid-teens I decided to lose my puppy fat, transforming myself as I lived, for the best part of a year, on Marmite on toast (no butter)."

Good god woman! I am amazed you didn't develop rickets or scurvy! And what did your parents make of this behaviour?

"The first summer I felt thin coincided with a family holiday abroad. While this provided an opportunity to show off my svelte new figure, I had to watch my calorie intake even more carefully."

I thought family holidays were for enjoying your family's company and doing things you wouldn't normally do; like sight seeing, swimming in the sea and trying local cuisine. Not just poncing around in your swim suit trying to catch the eye of the local lads. And did they know you were only 14?

"I am 5ft 11in and slimmed down to a size 8. One of my lecturers was so worried she pulled me aside to voice her concern. I put her intervention down to jealousy, as she was a size 16."

A sorry state of affairs when you think the genuine concern of a person in authority is jealousy of your unhealthy bony body. Especially when she probably looked fab as a size 16!

"The Polo diet paid off: I could wear whatever I wanted and looked fantastic. I stopped only after a stern lecture from my dentist about the damage I was doing to my teeth."

Really? Really? btw, if you were going for sugar free polos they cause diarrhoea if eaten in excess. Nothing says sexy like the runs!

"My 20s were dominated by dieting, and I managed to stay a steady size 8/10. If I put on a pound or two, I simplyskipped a meal. I actually enjoyed - and still do - the hunger pangs. Isee them as a reminder that I am not pigging out on pizzas and fast food."

Heroin addicts get a buzz of their antisocial addictions also, and that is an illness too! Hunger pangs are your body telling you you need to feed it before your cells atrophy!

"I even chose holidays according to the indigenous diet. India was a favourite because I lost weight on meagre vegetarian servings."

This is what you brought back from a visit from a heritage and culture rich country?

"Florida was a disaster, so obscenely huge were the portions. Never again."

Just because it is on your plate doesn't mean you have to eat it all. Eat until you are satisfied and NO LONGER hungry.

"In those days I didn't use scales to tell me if I'd gained weight: I went by the fit of my clothes. My benchmark was a pair of unforgiving, size 8, Agnes B skinny-fit trousers. "

Buy a slightly bigger pair. No doubt you could have used the money you saved by not buying food!

"A friend and I had a coded way of referring to the success of my latest diet. 'Ah! The Agnes B trousers are on!' she'd say, as I strutted across to the table at whichever restaurant we were meeting in."

If she was a real friend she may have been seeing this as a cause for concern? If she is encouraging you in this self destructive way of life then she is as bad as you and needs a good hard look at herself.

"In my early 30s I lived in Los Angeles. The entire city is permanently on a diet, heaven for a serial dieter like me. I was a size 8, and became accustomed to surviving on fewer than 1,000 calories a day. "

Like a concentration camp?

"I'd have a large black coffee for breakfast, so strong the caffeine would make me tremble. For lunch I'd eat a bagel with the bread inside scoopedout and replaced with salad. Evening meals were either sushi or egg-white omelettes."

Anything that makes you tremble when consumed is clearly a poison and should be treated with caution. Your diet seems to have a serious lack of protien.

"To avoid culinary temptation, I even made a point of renting a house without a kitchen."

I'll bet the landlord was laughing all the way to the bank!

"Of course, constantly denying myself food was not and is not easy, but it has always brought enough rewards to make it worthwhile."

Osteoporosis?

"In Los Angeles, for example, where I worked as a television producer, I was never out of work and never without a boyfriend."

You clearly lack the need for a deep and meaningful relationship. You certainly elude to there being a string of boyfriends. I wonder why none of them lasted?

"My self-control has slipped, on occasion, and I have found myself putting on weight. When I married my French husband, Pascal, in 2008, I wasn't at my thinnest. I suffered a bout of depression after losing my television company the previous year, and had gone up to a size 14."

Blimey...what a porker! I'll bet your internal organs were breathing a sigh of relief to finally be given the nutrients they need..

"Luckily for me, there is no better weight-loss incentive than a Frenchman. Pascal would not tolerate a fat wife and has told me that if I put on weight, our marriage is over. What more motivation do I need?"

You don't need motivation, you need couples counselling! Also looking at the photo of you two, perhaps he should put the same rigorous conditions on himself. The large belly is not indicative of a healthy diet, and he could have at least had the respect for you to have had a bit of a shave and tidy up before being photographed with you for a national newspaper.

"Today I am a size 12 and I never eat between meals. Elevenses isn't an excuse to gorge on carbs - it's just another hour on the clock."

Many others live by the same self discipline and don't feel the need to spout such rubbish. You are misguided if you think the rest of the nation are gorging on carbs mid morning. The majority are hard at work earning a living or raising their families. The majority of people don't have time to stop at eleven for a snack.

"Typically, I eat porridge for breakfast, a salad for lunch, and meat or fish with vegetables for dinner. Occasionally I allow myself some cheese, and I often have a yoghurt after dinner."

Well, it sounds like someone made your realise that protien is essential. You *allow* yourself some cheese, or even a yoghurt? blimey! reckless! I do wonder if you drink? Do you *allow* yourself that glass of wine?

"I maintain a food diary. I never shop when I'm hungry, I always read the packaging, and I weigh myself every other day."

I also have successfully kept a food diary, and discovered certain foods that made me ill. I never shop when hungry as being hungry is a sign of poor nutrition and will be adressed. I always read packaging, to check the food I am buying is ethical. I also try to buy things with minimal packaging. I also weigh myself once a week when the mood takes me. Obsessing about your weight is pointless when you are healthy!

"Like my female French in-laws, I follow an extreme low-calorie diet four times a year - one each season. I lose at least half-a-stone each time, though the side-effects mean that I don't have the mental or physical fortitude to work."

Surely this is showing you that it is a stupid way to treat your body? Side effects of a good diet should be more energy, clarity of mind and clear skin! Not an inability to work!

"The world admonished Kate Moss for claiming that 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' but I'd go further. As I see it, there is nothing in life that signifies failure better than fat."

Shall we ask the many beautiful "fat" celebs out there? By "fat" I man your bench mark for "fat"! Lets call Nigella, Dawn and Adele to the stand! I feel their success, vibrancy and beauty far outshines yours, missy!

For what it is worth I feel almost certain the Samantha Brick is a parody of today's celebrity attitudes. I think she is a joke! But if there is one grain of truth in these opinions of hers I would want my daughter (and son for that matter) shielded from them.

I would wish you, my darling daughter, to grow up to be happy, healthy and full of life.

I'd like to quote Joan Collins myself, "yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that is why it is called the present". Life is too short to spend it moithering about your weight.

Follow the simple ideals you have been brought up with and you will always have the correct figure for good health. Maintain a balanced diet and you will be able to continue with the metabloism you are blessed with. Indulge in life's little treats but do it in moderation. Keep an eye on the ethical aspects of what is on your plate. All in all do not conform to the perception of the "ideal".

Be yourself and you will always be beautiful.

“You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
Love like you'll never be hurt,
Sing like there's nobody listening,
And live like it's heaven on earth.”

Love

Mum!

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Fabulous.Thankyou